Stolen Lives Wales

If you want to support the Stolen Lives Wales protest on April 17th but cannot attend, please share a photo of yourself holding one or both of the posters below on social media using the hashtag  #StolenLivesWales. If we get enough photos, we will make a video to keep raising awareness. You can also email your photo to

Thank you and diolch yn fawr!

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Poster in English

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Poster in Welsh







What Are They Really Counting?

What are they really counting?

Why is everyone so focussed on the numbers of autistic people and people with learning disabilities stuck in hospitals?

What does this actually tell us…if anything?

Often the reason why our people are detained is because they are in a totally inappropriate situation or environment where they are being failed. Poor quality, insufficient or non existent care and support is at the heart of that failure. If people get out of hospital, it will be timely, agile, safe and supportive community care that will prevent them from being readmitted. Fundamentally, what is wrong starts in the community and ends in the community.

So why is everybody so focussed on the number of people in hospital? Why is this number the measurement of the success – and failure – of Building the Right Support?

In our video we look at other ways of measuring success. Maybe it’s time to change the focus?

Click on the link below to watch.


Saving Cascaidr – a guest blog by founder, Belinda Schwehr.

I might not be the CEO of CASCAIDr any longer but I can’t stop caring about it, and the crisis in the advice sector!

I want to highlight the cost of offering decent legal advice about adult social services disputes, so that people understand why we’re currently closed.

A bit like when one goes to A&E, people are often distressed and not particularly organised about making a referral, with little idea how to order their story. They maybe haven’t got the words, or they’ve been battling the system for months. They may be damaged, pessimistic or strung-out about having to go over it, all over again. But we’re online, only, apart from reasonable adjustments, so we have to expect people to get their story down, somehow.

Just like at A&E, you’d want to find someone there who knows the difference between a Conversation, an assessment and a care plan, wouldn’t you? Between a direct payment to the client and one to their Authorised Person instead? Between CHC and s117 or a split package? Between Choice of Accommodation and Continuing Ordinary Residence? Between a tenancy and a placement?

Community care law is not taught in universities. The only places such lawyers are found are legal aid law firms and local authorities, or other charities. Most CABx don’t cover this area of law.

Even if a lawyer is happy to work in a charity that isn’t a law firm, they’ll have bills to pay.

They’ll have spent YEARS acquiring expertise and honing the skill of unpacking a referral, figuring out whether the person is stuck somewhere in the Care Act process, or elsewhere, due to housing, special education, primary health need or mental health issues.

That set of skills has a market price. In the real world, scarcity invariably puts the cost UP, or people move OUT of the field altogether if they’re not decently remunerated.

Putting someone into a Triage/casework role at CASCAIDr, with those skills, requires £55K, plus oncosts, plus a proper contract, before anyone will move roles into the charity sector.

Even that ONE person will need IT systems/management, regulatory fees and licences, insurance and an administrator, so they can concentrate on law. They must balance the rate of work coming in against the staff they can pull in to take on the growing work.

So we can either chase grants, fund-raise or sell other useful stuff, if we are to remain viable, without charging people for advice.

That requires more bodies with brains and legal acumen. Volunteers of any kind can be taught community care law, but need managing, because whilst highly motivated, they work remotely, and their output needs supervising.

That’s why CASCAIDr needs a sponsor, right now, if we are to survive (please email if you know of someone who might grasp the enormity of this field of expertise just dying out…)

Or donations, please, via our site on

Books, a laptop. Glasses and justice scales

On the Inside

On The Inside

You’re looking from the darkness to the light,
And even on the inside, it is night.
No festive joy is yours,
Just locked and lonely doors
While those who should will never do what’s right.

‘Same As Any Other Day’ by Vic

First Christmas in psychiatric hospital.

We signed in and we told we have one hour to visit due to other parents also booking in and staffing levels being quite low.

The visitors room it’s freezing cold and a staff member sits at the door at all times with the door open. We are taking a huge bag of presents and cards all carefully chosen to comply with Ward rules.

As we leave it I am overwhelmed with sadness. She stands in the window waving goodbye to us. They won’t let her home at all,  the risk is too great , yet they discharged her just five weeks after this.

We go home to an empty house with no tree. Christmas isn’t welcome in our home this year. We head to a friend’s for a bite to eat and my mobile rings she’s on her way to A&E she’s eaten one of her Christmas presents and it wasn’t edible. They are dealing with it we don’t need to go.

Christmas on a psychiatric unit is the worst. Loads of familiar staff are away and locums are in and bank staff. They refused to let her go outside for days over Christmas due to low staffing levels or it was too rainy or it was too cold. They stuffed her full of sedatives and vitamin D tablets instead.

Paper chains are allowed and a basic Christmas tree but Christmas tree decorations are generally unsafe..

Many of the patients have gone home so its Christmas Dinner and loads of films ( same as any other day ) and then some card games and maybe the wii fit.

Christmas Nuts, a guest blog by Anwen

It’s Christmas Day. I’m in hospital about half an hour away from my parents. I’m in the small visiting room. On the squat table sits a cardboard box of presents wrapped in black and white cat wrapping paper. I am taking fat fistfuls of Mark’s expensive fruit and nut selection and cramming them into my mouth. We have an hour and a half with each other before we have to go and the next family is allowed in, since my parents never go on the actual ward. There’s a healthcare assistant sitting in the doorway. Kicking her legs bitterly. Like she has been given the shit job.

This Christmas I will not be allowed to go to church. My parents show me through the presents like a walk in a beautiful forest. One by one, each a little piece of love. soft felt slippers, pink and gray, a self-soothe box full of sensory toys, a 5 seconds of summer coloring book (Staples carefully removed), nail varnish remover pads to be used under careful supervision (except they weren’t.) and my beautiful dog coming into the secure garden for snuggles. I do not even have a grounds leave so this is a huge treat.

Christmas dinner will not be a family affair. Most of the other children are at home but I am taken back to the unit after my designated time is up. I am wearing my emerald green marks and spencers jeggings and my new slippers as I trudge back through the airlock, arms full of goodies, most of which will have to be locked away. My tummy is full of fruit and nut mix and my mood is somewhat stable and that is my first Christmas in hospital.

‘Tired’ – written by Anwen

The names are piling up

I remember I can speak, write

Something that does not occur to me while they are


Eating cereal with plastic baby spoons

Or not eating at all, except maybe through the nose.

But when they are dead, and it feels the worst,

I fucking roar

Quietly and with respect for those around me, who may have noise sensitivities.

      God surely must be quite tired of checking mentally ill children into heaven.

The coroner must be tired.

The nurses must be tired.

I am very tired, it seems relentless these days.

Another day, girl girl girl boy they/them she/them he/them reduced to death by misadventure or chronic or deceased or worse, somehow, EUPD which might have just been autism and/or ADHD and/or PDA profile and/or what does it matter they/them are dying/dead.

I am in love getting married and it’s been 7 years and they’re still dying/dead and I’m here/alive feeling guilty. When does it end? The children without help without choices without voices?

I’m getting impatient.

I would really like to know.

Written by Anwen


November in Rightful Lives

November Headlines from Rightful Lives:

* Baroness Hollins led report into the practice of using solitary confinement for people with autism and/or learning disabilities published and debated in Commons & House of Lords. A less than lukewarm government response.

* The Priory Group are facing 2 charges of criminal charges after CQC reported failures to reduce harm that led to the death of Matthew Caseby.

* Jury Inquest begins into the death of Jessie Eastland Seares at Mill Hill hospital in Hove. George Julian reporting daily.

* Psychiatrists record their reservations of proposed changes to the Mental Health Act. Concerns published in National Journal.

*MP tweets of her pleasure that planning application for residential home for people with learning disabilities has been refused due to noise concerns and that the character of the area would change.

* Written and directed by Stephen Unwin, the play “Laughing Boy” about Connor Sparrowhawk opens in London in May 2024.

* Bristol Council propose a “fair & affordable care policy” where people could be moved from their home into institutional care if it is cheaper. Lucy Series’ research shows no evidence was produced to support this policy.

*The Fabian Society propose that the right to independent living becomes a secured Right in the HRA. In related news, the government make their usual pre election promise that if elected, they will review the Human Rights Act.

*Autism Alliance launch their ‘Breaking Point’ campaign.

Art by Jessie Eastland Seares

Jessie Eastland Seares died in Mill View psychiatric hospital in Hove at the age of nineteen. A young autistic woman, she is remembered for being artistic, creative, funny, kind and colourful. Yet, she was failed by a system that was supposed to help her.  She asked her parents to share her story and so we are proud to share some of her wonderful artwork here.

Thank you, Jessie



Rightful Lives Statement on the Government’s response to Baroness Hollins’ report on the use of solitary confinement for autistic people and people with learning disabilities.

This statement can be read below or listened to as part of this video:


Three members of the Rightful Lives Admin Team have, over the past four years, been part of Baroness Hollins’ Oversight Panel, tasked with looking at the use of solitary confinement in psychiatric hospitals.

We have heard some heart rending stories and been appalled at the ongoing human rights abuses suffered by autistic people and people with learning disabilities. Basic needs are simply not met, abuse is rife and people face being totally dehumanised by their experiences. And as fast as people leave solitary confinement, other people take their place.

We were pleased to be able to contribute to Baronesss Hollins’ report and recommendations and we made sure that people at the Department of Health and Social Care, NHS England and the CQC were aware of the abuse and injustice suffered by members of our community. We were also pleased to hear of the successes of the HOPE(S) program and the senior intervenor program, but there is now no guarantee that these powerful initiatives will continue. It seems that things that work are just abandoned.

Not for one minute had we envisaged that the Government’s response would be as ineffective and insulting as it has been. We were led to believe that the Department of Health and Social Care was taking this issue seriously.

As autistic people and family members, we are accustomed to being asked to share our knowledge and expertise only to have that ignored or watered down. We invested our time and energy in this work because the Secretary of State for Health and Social Care appointed a Peer with expertise to make recommendations for improvement. We expected Baroness Hollins, and therefore us as an Oversight Panel, to have our recommendations taken seriously. It seems that this government would rather throw money at delaying tactics than actually take any real action. Our concern remains with all the people who remain in solitary confinement because this government does not care enough to make the changes needed.

Not only has the government proved that they really don’t care, their response has merely given permission to hospitals, practitioners and commissioners to carry on as normal. All of this is so unfathomable when we know that care in the community is so much more cost effective and rights respecting.

Solitary confinement is toxic, inhuman and degrading and frequently in breach of international and domestic law and guidance. There is little or no accountability when services fail people. Quite frankly, we are furious that, with more people than ever subject to enforced isolation, the Government doesn’t appear to be in the least bit invested in doing what works.

October 2023 in Rightful Lives

* “It takes every ounce of will and energy to visit my beloved daughter now. ‘Please take me home’ is her plea at every visit.”

* Lancashire Council ordered by court to pay learning disabled man £355,000 after judge ruled man had been unlawfully deprived of his liberty in a care home for 7 years.

*Human Rights Watch is visiting UK to collect evidence of institutional abuse of disabled people.


* “My son is currently in a seclusion room and has been for 3 months.”



*Access Social Care launches crowdfunder for litigation on transparency and accountability around funding for adult social care.

*My Life My Choice launches a self-advocacy network aimed at getting people with a learning disability out of secure hospitals and into appropriate housing in their communities.

Please Take Me Home – a post from a member of our UK community.

Silhouette of a girl sitting cross legged alone in the dark.

Panic attack, 4am. The 4th this week. Where is she? What is she doing. I imagine her angelic face buried into the hospital issue pillow, praying she is sleeping. Sending my angel to hers asking them both to wrap their arms around her. I won’t sleep now like the hundreds of nights before. I clean the house, anything to keep thinking about what has happened to us. It’s a parental nightmare.

26 months in ATU. The threats they made at the start were real. We spoke up, we let others know and they fought back with endless amounts of money to divide and conquer our family out of pure spite. For 21 years we never asked for help. They didn’t offer help either. Then one day our daughter needed help. What a mistake to ask.

The psychiatrist is a sick one, probably mentally messed up himself, is on a power trip after we challenged him and others about the prolonged detention, akin to prison. The others followed including the social worker whose bones are made of willow, bending to the whims of his masters just to keep his job. So much for looking out for the rights of my daughter.

Our beautiful, autistic daughter institutionalised now. Eats her meals with a wooden fork, paces up and down a corridor with no access to others except nurses who, when they are not injecting her with anti-psychotics, all know how horrific the situation is but dare not speak up. (except for one who agreed her situation is a travesty).

Two years in a psych ward. Secluded. Never been home. I asked the psych what ‘behaviour’ he would present with if he was my daughter,. I tell you no word of a lie, he laughed and said she ‘was getting good care’. My older son told him to f**k off. That was the start of it, the campaign against us. If you are not aware of the power these people have, I suggest you inform yourself.
It takes every ounce of will and energy to visit my beloved daughter now. “Please take me home”, coupled with “I shouldn’t be here” are her plea at every visit. She is chemically restrained, her head is down, her speech is slurred, she walks like an 80 year old with dementia. What can I say? We have no control. Her father is destroyed, her siblings don’t know what to say. Our house is a place of sadness and darkness, the heart has been ripped out of our family. How can the world not know what is going on in these nightmare holes of hell? Where are the human rights advocates? Where are the autism charities who turn a blind eye? Over 2000 locked up for something they didn’t do.

Our family is forever changed. Once I had a daughter, the centre of our family, most beloved, smart, quirky, funny, creative, happy. She is still my wonderful daughter but she is not who she used to be.
She turned 21 with no support in adulthood, things deteriorated. Asked for help. They took our daughter because we asked for help. We are being treated like defendants in a criminal court case. If you are reading this and you think this couldn’t happen to you and your beloved child, think on. We were that family. This very day, another family is experiencing the inconcievable heartache we feel. Can you imagine going into the jungle and a wild animal attacks your child? That is what this is like. It’s not going to go away until EVERY family speaks up and demands justice. Can you do that? If not for my daughter, do it for your own children or your children’s children.

My daughter is autistic. She committed no crime.


Psychological Restraint – a rights based framework

Psychological restraint is any kind of communication strategy that puts psychological pressure on people to do something they don’t want to do or stop them from doing something they do want to do.

Communication strategies might include verbal pressure (e.g., threats), non-verbal pressure (e.g., eye rolling, tutting etc.) and systemic pressure (e.g., being detained, locked in a hospital and feeling you have been made powerless by the environment).

Psychological restraint is probably the most common type of restraint but is not well known and spoken about, so it is difficult to challenge.

Many people that use the Rightful Lives Facebook group talk frequently of being made to feel powerless by the system and unsupported. They also talk about things such as:
• being observed on visits and intimidated by staff sitting with a paper and pen
• feeling as though they can’t challenge their loved ones’ care for fear of being ‘punished’ or ‘things being made worse’.
• their loved one being threatened with not having leave etc.

Psychological restraint, like other types of restraint, can breach peoples’ human rights. Psychological restraint is traumatic and results in poorer treatment outcomes.

The document linked below explains how psychological restraint breaches people’s human rights and will enable you to make effective challenges. Thank you to Salli Midgely and Sheffield Health and Social Care NHS Foundation Trust for agreeing for us to share it.

Click on the link to read it.

Psychological Restraint – a rights based framework



Rightful Lives’ response to the Metropolitan Police Force’s decision regarding mental health crises

In this video, Rightful Lives’ Alexis Quinn looks at the implications of the Metropolitan Police Force’s decision not to respond to mental health incidents that are not seen as immediately life threatening, disproportionately impacting neurodivergent populations.

We believe that the police have duties under the Human Rights Act and the Equality Act which they are unilaterally setting aside before alternative services are in place. And we wonder if NHSE and ICBs will step up to provide those services because people will not be safe. Police have a duty to protect lives, even neurodivergent lives. They are the only ones that can convey using legal s136 powers.

We have asked NHSE, the Ministry of Justice and the Metropolitan Police Force to issue statements about how distressed neurodivergent people will be kept safe (and not criminalised) in the light of this development.

Watch the video here:

But with courage I continue by Dannielle Attree

Dannielle is autistic and her poem is about the trauma of sexual abuse within the walls of a psychiatric hospital. Her bravery and her determination to use her creative skills to keep going shine though her words.

The video of her poem is here and is read by Alexis Quinn.

Art by Josh Andrade-Martinez

Josh’s mum, Leo, tells us a bit about Josh’s art.

Josh is 16 and a young artist.
He loves art and can name any famous artist in seconds since  age 7.

He goes to art lesson on Saturdays.
Being an artist has given my son huge confidence.
Josh has autism and OCD with social and health anxiety.
Those issues hinder him hugely but I am so very proud of him for going to those classes as it’s hugely difficult for him to deal with society and groups of people.

One of his pieces have been acquired by Lush cosmetics for Christmas 2023 paper. On that paper will be little secret messages that both Joshy and I did.
He is so very proud of it and so am I.

He has sold two of his paintings.
And was choked by how much it went for.
The money goes to the charity that gives him the lessons.
So he has not made any money.
A Chinese gallery in Hong Kong is interested in taking the painting of the monkey to Hong Kong.
We don’t know if it will happen but if it does, again it’s a huge achievement for a young man who would not speak to anyone or ever go out unless it was to school and even school was hard.

It goes to show that if you have an ability and you have autism or any other disability and people tell you what you can’t do and not what you can , you will never know what you can go for.
Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you can’t.

The Road to Dispatches – a guest post by Amy Eastwood-Grimes


I came across #rightfullives in May 2022 originally through Facebook. Aside from the continuous incredible support and advice it was lovely to find new friends and become familiar with people who share the same or similar struggles aswell as heartbreaking to see that so many people could relate or I could relate to them. And to hear the stories. Despite all, rightful lives brings us all together as one big united front all fighting the system together and supporting one another through it. I’m so glad I came across this group and wished I found these incredible people sooner. The work the admin team do is also incredible. If you have seen my posts in the group and supported me then you may also know and have probably seen the latest dispatches episode on Channel 4,

LOCKED AWAY: Our Autism Scandal!

If not and you either want to educate yourself on the ongoing crisis autistic individuals like myself are going through with the broken mental health system it would be great insight to do so, Or just to feel less alone, along with the plenty of other documentries I recommend that are similar to this matter. This is an ongoing problem and has been for too long now. Things aren’t moving as they should have or at all really with healthcare and although buried deep and covered up, these asylums are real. It happens more than you know, everyday. Right now there’s thousands of people out there who are silenced or aren’t able to say what’s happening to them. The numbers are only rising Amongst us who spoke out in the documentary We are just a handful of individuals and the documentary shows only a snippet into our lives as autistic inpatients trapped in a far broken system crambed into a 30 minute episode.

I’m don’t regret taking part and will continue to fight against the system for all and our life beyond breightmet (ASC Healthcare), littlewood, Cheadle and the thousands of other inadequate hospitals out there both abusing and neglecting autistic people all over the country in all kinds of ways possible.

But I would just like to thank Julie Newcome and the rightful lives team & everyone participated in the groups. Because without Julie, who actually was the one who put me forward to the director Richard & his team, I would still remain silenced and most likely stuck at breightmet centre in Bolton, so in a way you all saved me and I will forever be greatful and show my gratitude. I cannot thank you all enough! 

I also encourage others that if you can find the time and courage to do so, please do speak out if you can because like I said at the end of the film “if we don’t speak out no one will hear us and we remain silenced”.

Please make sure to follow Rightful lives on Twitter for their continuous great work that they do and to keep up to date with it all. And I recommend joining the Facebook group too for the best support and to know some of the bravest, kindest people & families who will no doubtly have experienced something similar and offer you great support with whatever you are going through! Joining rightful lives was the first time I felt listened to and less alone in what has been the worst & most challenging experience of my life. I will never forget all of which was there for me during this time. And if you want to keep up to date with my individual story I post alot on: 

Tiktok & Instagram @amyjayeastwoodgrimes

Twitter: @EastwoodGrimes. Also the lovely Katy who was too unwell to take part in the show Twitter: @Katy_Lauren Tiktok: @Katy_Laurenhx 

You can also follow Lauren’s Mummy on Instagram: @misslindseyj & Tiktok: @laurensmummy

 Lauren is girl who also featured in dispatches last Friday. Who sadly lost her life in the system in May 2022. Her Mum in on a battle to courageously continue to fight the system in the name of her daughter who sadly lost her fight but inspired many including myself by bravely sharing her journey. Like her equally as incredible mum fighting the system helping many others in a similar situation.

And please do sign her petition for change and use the hashtags #LollysLaw #LiveForLauren 

And last of all my thoughts are with the others who took part on the film Shaun, Danielle and her Mum, Lauren and her family! Along with my incredible friend who also did filming who spoke out about Breightmet who can’t go unmentioned in this article for her bravery and strength your incredible too. My thoughts are also with all the other warriors who we’ve lost, and all effected and their families. But like I said this goes beyond us, However We are all warriors and We have to keep fighting and supporting one another until we are satisfied. So to whoever is reading this please don’t give up, you will never be alone. Your amazing and don’t let them them make you feel otherwise. We hear you loudly, You’ve got this, We’ve got this!

Many thanks Amy Jay Eastwood.

ps (thank you for the out-pour of support that everyone has shown me this past few days since the film came out, you have all restored my faith in humanity and that there are so many kind people in this world amongst those not so much. So thanks for everything, and thanks to all my friends, family, my idols Jedward who are my heroes that I am lucky enough to have known for most of my life who inspire me, make me smile at the worst of times, and always have my back all the way, you’re super Jepic. And to my incredible mum who taught me to speak out and how to use my voice, I’ve learned that sometimes your voice is all you have in most situations, though I’m aware & have seen so many people are silenced or unable to say what’s happening to them, so I am greatful I can use my voice and make myself heard not just for myself but for everyone of us who can’t speak out. And I promise this is just the start from me). all I want is to make change and for everyone to be free and not have to go through what so many have, things need to change. Please keep sharing your story and remember this is just apart of it…

#Dispatches #Channel4 #OurAutismScandal #ActuallyAutistic #RightfulLives 

Mother’s Day 2023

We were sent this anonymously. Read it out loud for all those detained.

ATU’s Mother’s Day

My child is a prisoner, I the walking wounded.
He cries at night, Mum! My body and soul bled of the life force I so desperately need to get him out of there.
“He’s fine today, he ate his dinner”, cold comfort six months later, detained he’s still a sinner paying the price for not being ‘nice’ for being autistic.
My son, my love, my centre of being, my thoughts of you now, of what you have seen, heard, endured in that hell-hole of the absurd where so many others have been. You didn’t deserve this.
Tomorrow is Mother’s day, our 30 minute visit cut short to allow other mums to elicit a reaction, smile, hug, from their own traumatised childen, sustaining them another week, while they ask when will this nightmare end.
It’s the night before Mother’s Day and while I believe this day was made more for Hallmark Cards and florists than me, this Mother’s day will get my attention, the day my son remained in secluded detention for something he didn’t do and the failure of this nation, despite the First World location, to understand he is:

Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day approaches, we’ve been thinking about all the parents who have children in ATUs and all other institutional settings, and of all the parents with a learning disability and autistic parents who may be stuck in these places.
We wondered if parents in these situations will be apart from their children on this day when so many other families are able to celebrate, so we made a video to look at the issues.
In this video, we hear a poem about how it feels to be so exhausted from the battle against the system. We then hear from Alexis Quinn, Dr Dawn Cavanagh and Julie Newcombe about their own personal experiences of being apart from their loved ones.
Finally, there is information about blanket restrictions and Article 8 of the Human Rights Act (respect for your private and family life) that people might find useful in challenging hospital decisions not to allow visits.

You can watch the video here:

What Good Looks Like

There are so many reports and reviews about ‘what good looks like’ for autistic people and people with learning disabilities. We think this might be one way of looking at it.